The cuddle weather looming on the horizon

At the end of last summer I was dreading the cold lonely days that we know as cuddle weather…. (for those of you who don’t, it consists of the late fall and early winter months). The calm air that slowly knocks the leaves one by one to the ground, informing us that winter will be approaching in only just a little while. What makes these months enjoyable, despite the fact that we are no longer sweating down our backs when we just step outside, is that we can take full advantage of the excuse of needing a cuddle buddy :3.
The reason why last year was a lonely cuddle weather for me, was because I was single, with no cuddle buddy in sight. It was mid fall when I had realized my true desire for a cuddle buddy, but at that point it was to late. Everyone had coupled up after their promiscuous summer days, and things fell back into a coupled cycle, everyone already having their cuddle buddy reserved.
My lack of a cuddle buddy made me feel lonely because I could only imagine the endless cuddle weather activities you could do with one :D. Like: sipping hot cocoa, sitting by the fire, cuddling anywhere (outside on a blanket, inside on a couch, or a bed, etc.), keeping each other warm ;), pretending to be arctic dragons that blow air (like when you blow air and you see your breath in the winter) instead of fire :p, going on walks only to come back to a warm house to defrost, watching movies snuggled up in a blanket, going to bonfires together, the options are limitless :).
I think I’ll end this post stating that I think we all learn something new every day given a minuscule event that may happen in our day. I say this because I learned a little tid bit of information today as a result of this post. I wasn’t quite sure what months went with each season, so I googled it :). I learned that fall consists of: September, October, and November. Winter: december, January, February. Spring: March, April, may. Summer: June, July, and August. (just in case you didn’t know that :p).

Bring on the cuddle weather :3!!!

I don’t want to go to bed mad at you…

     I just finished listening to a song I recently discovered by NE-YO, titled “mad”. Tonight though, I watched the music video that went along with the song for the first time. It was sad… :(. The video had an important message in it, that you may have not caught by just listening to the song it’s self. It seems to me that the message he is trying to show is that you don’t know when will be your last day. A loved one of yours could storm out the house in middle of an argument between the two of you, and get hit by a car. If you watch the video you will realize that this rash situation is not something I just thought of, but rather the situation in the music video. 

     Something I hadn’t noticed in the beginning of the video, was that he died. It would have made a lot more sense, and would have been even sadder to watch the video, if that detail hadn’t gone right over my head. It was such a small detail, but it made a difference as I watched it over again. Surprisingly I got goose bumps and felt very saddened by the video once I understood what was going on. 

     This music video reminded just how important it is to say goodnight to your love with words of kindness. Rather than waking up still with the rage you had with one another. We should cherish our loved ones dearly, because we never know when we may loose them. I recommend watching the music video, it may not be your particular style of music, but the video and song, mix in just the right ways to give you the chills (goose bumps :P). The song is named “mad” by NE-YO, if you forgot ;P. 

      I wish you all a good night, and may you tell your loved one “je t’aime! <3” with a smile on your face, as you say your goodbyes tonight :D!

I need more optimism from you!

I think we all are very aware of that endless voice in our head telling us how we actually should be acting 24/7. It telling us to remember to think, not just react immediately, when we’re annoyed. I feel as though that inner voice that may seem like a movie director at times, screaming at us: “I need more passion from you, more optimism for life! Remember, you’re a star darling, a star! Go to your happy place”. We all know when we may be over reacting and accidentally adding extra drama to a kind hearted film, that doesn’t require you to portray an overly somber person, but rather a light heated soul.

Sometimes I think we all need to summon our inner actor and turn that frown upside down. I’m not saying that we should sweep our emotions under the rug and clean them up later, if they are actual problems. Rather, I am saying that when something doesn’t go our way it isn’t the end of the world. When that souffle you make flops and turns inward rather than giving you that beautiful dome, bake another one; when you can’t see your favorite person in the entire world that day, plan another day to see them; when your dog dies get a new one!! 😀 (just kidding, that is actual a real problem you can get upset about); and if you feel you don’t look so hot today, remember there is always someone who looks worse than you out there ;).

When ever you want to explode about that tiny spot of your make up that just isn’t right, just summon your inner jungle cat, “you’re a tiger baby, a tiger ;P”. I just would like to point out that we usually wallow in every little measly thing for to long. We really should just shut up and stop stressing about the little stuff. I may have said this in a previous post, but I’m going to stay it again. We’re all lucky to have a life on this earth, it’s not like you’re dying right now. I know we all can not handle the moods we get. The feelings we have are usually just like a knee jerk reaction. Though that shouldn’t keep us from living our lives to the happiest extent we can.

If someone were to ask you right now if you could choose between these two options, which one would you choose?: live 100 hundred days constantly upset and then die, or live 30 of the happiest days of your life and then die?

If you’re like me and chose the latter of the two, then I have something to point out…. if you didn’t want to be upset for 100 days and then die, why would you choose to live the life you have now that way? It’s defeating the purpose of choosing the second choice, because you can’t help but follow the path of the first one accidentally.

I’m not going to say it is easy to not be bothered by the little things, but it sure makes a lot more sense to them them breeze on by. Today I was not a very good example when it   came to pushing the small things aside. I wasted part of my day sulking about a small little thing. Instead of moving on and doing something to put me in a positive more productive state of mind. I actually did attempt to switch my emotions by reminding myself “you’re alive for goodness sake, what else do you want?!?”. It worked, and I was happy again. Then my mood got triggered by someone getting overly angry with me and I almost lost it. I didn’t end up loosing it too bad though, and eventually that mood faded. I can honestly tell you though, that the worst parts of my day resulted in me getting all worked up about minor problems.

So I bid you all adieu! I hope you all have a wonderful night, and start your day with a smile! ;D

Endless summer

So far my summer has seemed never ending. The days have been usually long, but those that felt short probably were the best days I had this summer.

In the span of my summer days, I’ve had my days filled by the enjoyable job of entertaining an Exchange student from France. We went to the movies, pool, mountains, water park, gym (every week day), rock climbing, Washington DC, etc. Most of the activities I did this summer were meant to give my family’s new little French fry the experience of what some things are like in America. He, yes a he, even though I’m a girl, the same age as him…. tried most foods we have in America that I barely even eat regularly. He had Twinkies, pop tarts, gold fish (which was like his crack, he loved the stuff haha), burgers, Reece’s peanut butter cups, and other various food items. My sister and I also sparked an interest in him to create a new concoction. It all started when he saw us eat our favorite food, which just so happens to be really strange, it’s oatmeal. So he got a cup and made some hot cocoa and then got the plain oats and poured them into his hot cocoa. It was probably the strangest way to have them, but they turned out satisfactory to him, and it became a snack he would occasionally have.

When our exchange student (Louis) first got here, there was a little bit of a fear that he possibly wouldn’t click with our family. I even looked up my sister’s, my, and Louis’s zodiac signs to see if the personalities of our signs were slightly compatible. They weren’t, it said it was an awkward match. On the contrary though, it turned out to be very pleasant and not awkward at all when it came down to it all. He charmed his way into our family and everybody got along with him just fine, finding individual things each of us clicked with, with him. For my sister and I it was fitness and talking with him; my father enjoyed taking him out with him to do the shopping, talk about guy stuff (I guess? haha), and getting a little daring together, when it came to our trip to the mountains; my mother liked the aspect of broadening his experience here by talking to him about some bits of history when the topic arose, she also enjoyed our little escapades to introduce him to a new american food and waiting to see his reaction to the taste; as for my brother’s connection with him, I would say there may not have been a huge one, but I think my brother enjoyed having another guy around the house, even though he was out and about most of the time Louis was here.

Back to my earlier comment about him being a guy exchange student. You may think “wouldn’t that be awkward when he sees you at home without make up on?”, “what about one of you developing a possible crush on one another?”, “he’s a guy, isn’t there the possibility of the dynamics of conversation being a little awkward since there is the gender difference?”, “why did you choose to have a guy not a girl?”, etc. The make up one ended up indifferent since after the first few days or week he was here I stopped wearing make up completely. He and everyone I came into contact with in public saw me looking the exact same. The possible crush question was easily solved since my sister and I both had and still have boyfriends, to which we were faithful to, so we didn’t give Louis even an inch of encouragement in that direction. Later on he ended up completely solving that one even further on his own, anyway….. ;). But there were still billions of times when he would flirt with us, tease us, tickle us, and mess around with us in flirtatious ways. With our conversations gender didn’t seem to be a barrier and we could all pretty much talk about anything with each other. As for choosing a guy over a girl, I wanted a guy exchange student all along, because I generally prefer to interact with guys rather than girls. They generally put behind all that petty junk, and are willing to risk breaking a nail or two to do something that may make them smelly as well. Also, we wouldn’t have known if a girl exchange student would have been the type of girl that loved to stir up drama.

So now onto explaining how Louis solved the problem further…. oh our little Frenchmen, he was very impressive in his skills and managed to find just the right girl to fit his particular situation… It was when we decided to invite our not so close friend’s family to come to the water park with us. The girl immediately took interest in him and was fully aware of how attractive she thought he was. So my sister and I planned for the two of them to go on a raft together and we would be on a separate one, each time we went on a ride. After about 2-3 hours into our time at the water park it became time for lunch, and as we were all at the cabana some time or another, Louis leaned in and kissed our friend and she reciprocated without hesitation. Throughout the rest of the time there, they were all over each other, holding hands, him giving her piggy backs in the wave pool, him holding her close in the wave pool, them kissing, etc. On the way back home they also were making out in the back seat. Let’s just say the feeling between them was pretty mutual… lol. For the rest of his stay in America he would go to her house occasionally when they got the chance, and they became boyfriend and girlfriend. So now my sister and I have created a new term that is called doing a Louis. It’s where an exchange student in a different country manages to get a girl or guy that quickly, or in the span of a week or so (anytime during their stay, before they leave that country).

Another experience I had this summer, due to having Louis staying here, was missing the dead line to bring him to his flight, which we had not expected so we had to ‘live off the land’ until the next day when another plane would leave the same time. By ‘live off the land’ I pretty much mean that we had to get a hotel at the last minute when we currently had no place at all to stay, and using siri to navigate us through the city while we looked for the hotel, places to eat, and the store, to buy ourselves stuff like clean under wear, tooth brushes, a hairbrush, etc. We all claimed that the flight didn’t work out so that we would have one last little hurrah and have a going away party in the hotel room.

All in all it was an enjoyable time we had with Louis, but now that he’s gone we can also get back to our usual lives, minus having one extra person around the house. It was a very unique experience to have him here and his English was effortlessly perfect for communication between us all. He ended up being just the right fit :).