#2 “if I were a guy”: look at me dammit

#2 “if I were a guy”: look at me dammit.
I continued to talk to the same “cutie with the eyes,” and sadly found more points on how I would woo me better.
I know a lot of us are shy as hell around people we find intimidating, attractive, or someone we like, but there is a certain point where you should at the very least try to have a few lingering stares amidst the conversation.
So “cutie with the eyes” and I were talking. He appeared either nervous or just clueless, and we were having a conversation while sitting beside each other, but we never made eye contact.
So here is what I would have done as the guy nervous as hell to maintain eye contact:
• face your fears. Attempt to make eye contact at the very least.
• stare into the person’s eyes for a few seconds at a time to get acclimated to it.
• get up the guts to just admit that you need a little help because you can’t seem to maintain eye contact even when you want to because you’re so nervous.
• challenge the person to a staring contest. You must stare into their eyes to know when they blink.

Hopefully a guy who can’t seem to maintain eye contact can benefit from these tips. The staring contest would be a sure fire way to create a more relaxed playful competitive vibe.
Not maintaining eye contact could be one of the reasons she doesn’t go on a date with you, or doesn’t even choose to remain friends.

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“If I were a guy”: talking etiquette 101

Prelude to the beginning of a series of blogs: “If I were a guy.”

So many times I have uttered the words “if I were a guy,” and then I continued on explaining out loud how a guy could totally woo me given the same scenarios they have found themselves in with me, and explain that if I were a guy I would’ve been able to snag someone (or at least someone like me) perfectly in that precise situation.
I give all these in depth tips, but I never write them down or do anything to preserve the ideas once they’re out of my mind.
I’m going to start shifting the main focus on my blog to the blog series “If I were a guy.” I will have a regular blog posting every so often, and this time it will actually have some type of theme and direction. I hope you all find it entertaining, helpful, or at the very least enjoyable.
Random thought: I just realized that I hardly use the word enjoyable, enjoy, and other forms of that word… I should really use it more often as an alternative to like.

#1 “if I were a guy”: talking etiquette 101.
Let’s begin at the very first spark of inspiration I had for this series. At the beginning of the semester I met “the cutie with the eyes.”
Here’s what he did right:
• He was mysterious.
• He wasn’t overtly thirsty (for those of you who don’t know what thirsty means, it basically means desperate, or ready to fool around with any willing body).
• He just kept to himself and stayed focused on studying.
• He had a calm presence.

Now the first interaction was good because he left himself as an intriguing mystery to me.

Then we began talking through text between when we’d see each other… And that’s where people can make their biggest mistakes and lose the person they’re after.
The question game (or 21 questions, or whatever you may call it) is a great game, don’t get me wrong, but it needs to be used sparingly.

What I would have done in the situation, if I were a guy:
• I would have started it of with possibly a explanation of how I found the certain person interesting and wanted to get to know them better, and maybe throw in even a non sexual compliment (e. g. you have such beautiful eyes. It may be a little bit of a come on, but it’s far more different than calling the new friend of yours beautiful or pretty, running the risk that they don’t find you as attractive as you find them), or some kind of unique compliment they may have never heard before
• I would have asked to play the question game, but I would make sure I never said the horrible line “you can go first.” I feel that in a situation like this, if you begin to pursue a girl, don’t throw all the work on her to get it rolling and expect it to actually prosper. She may not even be sure about you. So take the initiative and lead.
• Once the question game got rolling I would focus in on the things I gathered from what I asked, and I would try and talk about those things so that we can talk on a more personal level rather than an interview style where there are mainly questions and less discussion.
• I would leave keeping them feel intrigued, not at a low point where they leave the conversation desperate to get away because they’re so bored.

And that my dear readers, is what I would do “if I were a guy”.