Fifty shades of grey and virginity

Recently I’ve been caught up with some learning and thinking about stuff that doesn’t really interest me (school), so I thought I’d free my mind by sharing a few non-school related thoughts.
Just a few nights ago, I watched fifty shades of grey. For those of you who hate it, hold on before you judge me about this, and for those of you who loved it, take my critique with a grain of salt.
For those of you who don’t know what fifty shades of grey is about, I’ll give you a brief summary. It’s about a young, wealthy entrepreneur and a slightly unsure virgin, finding themselves intertwined with one another in a sexual contract. The guy, mr grey, has singular tastes and only participates in bdsm, and not simply vanilla sex. Anastasia steel (the girl) is a bit apprehensive at first, because she doesn’t want to be his “sex slave” as she puts it.
Time for the evaluation of the movie. For those of you who haven’t watched it, there may be a few spoilers below, so I’m warning you now.

This movie had a lot of intrigue initially because it appeared to have potential. As I watched it though, I couldn’t find the intrigue I was expecting to translate into the movie. Honestly the plot didn’t compensate for the nudity. It wasn’t a typical bdsm relationship, it was mr grey’s version of a bdsm relationship. In real bdsm, you take pleasure in being the dominant and don’t look like some surgeon doing a routine surgery. The dominant doesn’t do all of the work. You’d think in a situation where someone could be mistaken for a sex slave, they’d at least touch the dominant or give him pleasure just once at least. Now I’m not going to say that it was the worst movie of all time, becuause I didn’t watch the last few minutes of it, so I don’t have the right to judge it completely without watching every bit of it. I will tell you how I think it could have been improved though. It should be remade with two actors completely unattached. Jamie dornan (mr grey) has a wife…. That totally closes off the opportunity for him to actually bring an unbridled passion with him on set, which you need in order to properly portray chemistry. Now I’m not saying they didn’t do the movie right, because maybe the writer wasn’t looking to portray a typical bdsm relationship, and rather an abusive relationship that was masked with the unrepresentative title of a “bdsm relationship”. All in all, I personally wouldn’t watch the rest of it or the sequels, because it just didn’t really do anything for me. Though I’m not saying it will be the same for others, some of you may love it, and some of you may hate it. 

Now onto my next topic of random thoughts. One night I was watching the bachelor (again, hold your judgement), and it revealed that some of these beautiful women were still virgins. I ended up asking a few guys what they thought of girls being virgins, and the answers all varied. One said that its not a plus, but rather a minus. He said that she would not be experienced enough or know what to do. Another guy answered by saying that it all really varies because people don’t need to go lose their virginity or necessarily keep it. He thought that it was all subjective to the person and their life, and if they had lost it, then they had lost it and if they didn’t, they didn’t. He thought it was a very fluid thing that didn’t have a time requirement necessarily, so he didn’t see why you would need to care if your partner was a virgin or not. He also didn’t think that those who have had sex would necessarily be any better than those who have had sex. Then the last viewpoint I got was that it would be a plus for the girl to be a virgin because that means she is untouched in that particular way, and it could be special between the two of you, and you wouldn’t be picturing her with all of her other romantic partners. 

Comment if you have any thoughts you’d like to share, I’d love to hear them!