A while back, I thought about how we all view each other and the world from our eyes, but the image is masked by our own personal filter. Like on an Instagram picture, you can increase or decrease an image’s beauty based on the filter you use, and sometimes a filter is unnecessary. Let’s discuss those images that unluckily get stuck with the wrong filter. We are the pictures, how others view us are the filters. Sometimes we can determine an initial filter that we hope to present, but these filters find themselves altered by those around us. The beauty that is hidden with the wrong filter can be monumental. For example, say there was this wonderful person. They’re vibrant, bubbly, flirtatious, and a bit sarcastic at times (but only in good fun). There’s the overwhelmed filter: the way someone would view this person, because they don’t enjoy the energy they bring, and feel it disrupts the peace. Then we have the insecure filter: this perception is a result of the person feeling as though any random sentence spoken is directly targeted at them in a negative way, all of the time. Then we have the jealous filter: this one results from envying this person’s ability to attract attention and admiration. Then we have the no filter option: the person is seen for exactly who they are. Then there is the magnified filter: this view comes from a deep admiration for the person. They accept them for who they are, and go beyond even that, by appreciating these characteristics for the personality they comprise.Typically the filters we have for viewing others are a reflection of our best and worst qualities. If we’re insecure, we are unnecessarily hateful. If we’re sad, we’re negative, or apathetic. If we’re too analytical, we see the world from a clinical kind of perspective. If we’re content, we see people for who they are. If we’re high on life, we see the beautiful traits in others, and celebrate the unique qualities they possess. These aren’t only ways we view people, but also how we view our own lives and the things that surround us.

So take a moment next time you sense you’re being overly negative about another person, and contemplate whether or not that same filter is the one you use to view your life.

Whispers in the shadows

I’ve recently began college classes once more, and I’ve made an interesting observation. It’s not news, but now it’s more confirmed. Throughout my life I’ve noticed that a lot of people whisper about you as you walk past, and sometimes you don’t even notice. I have personally had it happen a lot due to being an identical twin. Though just recently, I found myself whispering about someone else. I saw a guy with a dark olive tan complexion contrasting with the most beautiful green eyes. All I could think was “damn he has beautiful eyes, and he probably doesn’t even realize it.” I whispered to my twin and told her about the green eyed guy sitting across the way. We whispered among ourselves about his gorgeous eyes as he sat in his own world. He had head phones in, and was writing away in his spiral notebook. He had no clue he was being secretly complimented. I used to believe that people who don’t voice their admirations aloud were not taking advantage of a perfect opportunity to make someone’s day with a genuine compliment. Now I know it’s a completely different story being on the admiring end. When you see a person with captivating eyes, you don’t just walk up to them, tap their shoulder (they take out their headphones), and then say “you have such amazing eyes.” Because such a compliment could be perceived as rather creepy and a little bit delving compared to General observing. Your eyes are particularly one of the most personal parts of your body that can be admired out of all. You can’t stare deep into someone’s a** and evoke any deep penetrating emotion from just a signal stare. So even going up and saying that a person has nice eyes is an intimidating prospect. The one thing I’ve observed though is that all eyes typically are very unique and attractive in their own way, though some jump ahead of the rest due to how remarkable they are. Which brings me back to how intimidating of a theory it would be to go up and compliment such a stunning pair of eyes. Back to my main point though. Many people watch and observe us, some negatively and others positively. One thing I don’t think many of notice is that it happens way more frequently than we may suspect. If I’m sitting in the heart of a building for classes, trying to get my studying done, odds are, I’ll be looking up from my book at the first sight of movement around me. I’m too curious for my own good, and so are a great majority of us. We watch others, form opinions, watch more people, and repeat. Some of us are more vocal to the group were surrounded by, when we see someone who particularly catches our eye. So if your the shy quiet type who is in their own world studying, you may think you’ve blocked yourself from the outside world momentarily, but you’ll never push it out. No matter how blocked off you are, you still may be admired for purely that reason. You’re not looking desperately for the attention or pea-coking yourself for the outside world, and that’s the draw. I’ve already been captivated by two quiet, “in-their-own-world-ers.” So the next time your all down because you don’t receive any compliments, just remember that there are whispers in the shadows all around you.